Games and dating games
To level the playing field, she avoided giving him her cell-phone number so he didn't have access to her anytime, anyplace. By taking your time calling him back, you become a catch, not a convenience.When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!"Men often fear losing their independence, but when a woman hints that she doesn't need a guy, suddenly his fears of being smothered vanish and he's begging to be penned into your day planner." And, says Kreidman, "too many women brush off their friends and hobbies for a man.Playing this game gives her a better grip on balancing her life."The game plan: Plain and simple — tickle his jealousy bone.He quickly surprised her with tickets to the theater and a bouquet of roses for the following Sunday."Being booked was all it took to jostle him into action," says Georgia.To really work the strategy, end dates and phone calls first, and cryptically mention your other plans with little or no elaboration.
"Games are the way we keep romance alive," says Helen Fisher, Ph D, author of . Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued." What makes these courtship contact sports so appealing is that there are no losers and they pave the way to building a relationship that's humming with excitement. Play these five games with him and we promise you'll score.
"Over dinner, Andy asked me if I was seeing other people.
I just said teasingly, 'Well, I certainly don't stay home alone.' I could see the intrigue was killing him." How everybody wins: Where there's secrecy, there's interest.
How everybody wins: Maintaining your own life acts like claustrophobia kryptonite.
"When you show that you like him but your world doesn't revolve around him, it says you're confident and self-reliant — two very sexy traits to a guy," says Argov.